Young people’s problems

Young people’s problems.

     Everybody says your youth is probably the best time of young life, that being young means romance, love, new discoveries & so on. But it is also the most difficult time because you have to make some very important decisions, which will influence all your future life.

     Things are not easy nowadays even for adults, but for teen-ages, which have to find their own place in society, it’s very difficult. It’s necessary not only to adapt to your society, but also to be confident about your position in 5, 10 or 20 year’s time.

     For your future it is essential to have a good job. Every girl or boy leaving secondary school should choose an institution of higher education, or if he or she doesn’t want to study any more, choose a job straight way.

     But even if you are studying, you need money of your own to pay for extra clothes, tapes, and books. If something the problem.

     Emotional problems for young people can be far more difficult than financial ones. The typical teenager problem is drug-habit. Some young man use drugs, because they think that will be cool guys. But they don’t understand that it’s wrong. Some of them can’t stop that, and they become dependent on drugs. And they commit different serious crimes, because they need some money to buy drugs.

     Youth is also the time to meet your first love. It is, of course, wonderful, but, as it is widely known that first love often has an unhappy end, this also increases young people’s problems.

     We also face the problem how to spend our free time. We can do it in different ways. Some of teen-ages spend their free time in different nightclubs. Other young people spend their free time in the streets.

     Another typical problem for most of the teen-ages is problem with their parents. Leo Tolstoy said: “All families are happy in the similar way and unhappy in its own way”. And happiness or unhappiness of any family mostly depends on relations in it.

     So many families so many family relations. Each family establishes its own relations in its own way. It has its own traditions & customs & its own unwritten constitution including rights & duties of every member of the family. The level of democracy is also different in different families, which mostly depends on the viewpoints of adults usually not coinciding with a child’s point of view. So the problem of misunderstanding becomes urgent. Some people can it generation gap. It as a rule sharpens as soon as a child approaches his or her difficult teens. And both sides (parents & children) should be patient & tactful & it’s the only way to settle down all the problems & stay friends.

     Parents say that it’s difficult to discipline children. But experts state that parents will get the best results if they try to prevent or stop misbehavior in natural, logical & when possible fun ways. Here are some pieces of advice to help them keep their kids in line.

     So, as you see, it is very difficult to be young nowadays, as, need, it always was. But you only can be young once, & some wonderful things can happen only when you’re young. So, it is be to enjoy youth while it lasts

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When a Young Person is Suicidal

Navigating the teen years safely and healthily can be a real challenge. It’s an emotional journey,

This intense exploration of values, of sexuality, of career hopes and independence. At the same time, there are more responsibilities on all sides: school, family, work and relationships.

The burden of trying to balance personal discoveries and dreams against other people’s expectations can be enormous. For some, the pressure can become painful and overwhelming. The stress of being young is often not understood or even recognized, and that can make a person feel alone and isolated. Because problems are being confronted for the first time, they can appear huge and impossible to solve. These feelings can make a friend very vulnerable to thoughts of suicide. Suicide can appear to be an impulsive act. But it’s a complicated process, and a person may think about it for some time before taking action. It’s estimated that 8 out of 10people who attempt suicide or die by suicide hinted about or made some mention of their plans.

Often, those warning signs are directed at a friend. Recognizing the warning signs is one thing; knowing what to do with that information is another. Suicide was a taboo subject for a very long time. Even talking about it is still difficult for most people. But being able to talk about suicide can help save a life. Learning about suicide is the first

Step in the communication process.

SUICIDE IS ABOUT ESCAPE NOT DEATH

Suicide is about escape. Someone, who thinks seriously about suicide is experiencing pain that is so crushing, they feel that only death will stop it.

Most people consider suicide at some time in their life. There is nothing wrong with having these thoughts, or with acknowledging them. It is when these thoughts begin to take shape as plans that there is cause for alarm. Like adults, young people become depressed. But because they don’t behave the way depressed adults do, they may be dismissed as simply “acting out”. Or being rebellious. Emotional problems or conflicts about sexual orientation can also go unnoticed. Being depressed, while struggling with the challenges and pressures of being young, can create suicidal feelings.

WHAT ARE THE SIGNS

Most people who consider suicide are not determined to die. They are undecided about whether to live or die, so they may take risks and leave it to someone else to save them. Warning signs may be their way of asking for help or revealing the seriousness of their situation. Warning signs can be very subtle. They can also be as obvious as someone saying, “You won’t be seeing me any more.” 

Here are some common warning signs:

• Sudden change in behavior (for better or worse)

• Withdrawal from friends and activities,

• Lack of interest

• Increased use of alcohol and other drugs

• Recent loss of a friend, family member or parent, especially if they died by suicide

• Conflicting feelings or a sense of shame about being gay or straight

• Mood swings, emotional outbursts, high level of irritability or aggression

• Feelings of hopelessness

• Preoccupation with death, giving away valued possessions

• Talk of suicide: e.g. “no one cares if I live or die”

• Making a plan or increased risk taking

• Writing or drawing about suicide (in a diary, for example)

• “Hero worship” of people who have died by suicide

Remember that there is no ultimate list of warning signs. It may be right to be concerned about someone simply because their behavior is out of character. Sudden shifts in a person’s attitude or actions can alert friends to potential problems.

WHAT YOU CAN DO

The only person who can stop a person from considering suicide is the suicidal person. But you can help them to reconsider and seek other solutions. The most important thing is to listen. Take your friend seriously. People who share their suicide plans often demand secrecy from their friends. But they’re usually hoping that their friend will stop them by getting help. When a life is at risk, requests for confidentiality must be ignored.

Don’t be afraid to be the first to mention suicide. Talking about suicide openly does not increase the risk. Ask if your friend is suicidal. Bringing the subject into the open can bring relief.

You can help by:

• Really listening, without judging not challenging, or becoming angry and shocked

• Finding ways to break through the silence and secrecy

• Asking if they have plans or have made prior attempts

• Helping them find ways to lessen their pain

• Helping them see positive possibilities in their future

• guiding them to other sources of help as soon as possible, such as a counselor or other.

Trusted adult or community crisis lines listed in your telephone book.

No one can solve another person’s problems. But sympathy and support can help; knowing that someone else has faced similar tough times and survived can help a suicidal person see a light at the end of a very dark tunnel.